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Maybe this time, or next?

 It was a little irrational I know, but that first month's failure hit hard. 

As I explained previously, I knew the numbers, I knew the likelihood of a successful pregnancy on the first go, and I tried my best to not get carried away. For the most part I would say I did, well, okay, but for how low I felt a short while afterwards, I clearly let my emotions get ahead of me a little.

It's all part of the learning I guess.

You don't get too much time to dwell though, not long after you discover that the pregnancy hasn't happened, you're back trying to create life again. 

I went into the second attempt feeling like I was older and wiser to the experience - and I guess in a small way, I was - it didn't work the first time, therefore it might not work the second time as well. 

With that being said, I felt that perhaps I should start doing research into best conception practices, I obviously knew the basics - it's just "'fings 'n 'oles" Rachel and I would regularly say to each other; but we both knew there was probably a bit more to it than that. 

It's a bit complex all this conception malarkey - some things are simple - if you want to conceive, don't use contraception - okay, easy start; what's next? Try and have unprotected sex every two or three days. Blimey! Okay, that's a lot, but we'll give it a go. The best time to conceive usually occurs 12 to 14 days before your next period starts - right; let's get the calendar out. Make sure you're healthy and don't drink or smoke - oohh! Another easy one, well apart from the odd piece of cake (or two), hopefully that won't cause a problem - I'd never heard of cake being a contraception before, so I figured it was probably safe enough.

Rachel (like many women I suspect) was tracking her periods using a phone app anyway, which helped with the timings of it all. It showed each day, and based on her previous periods would work out roughly when her period would start, how long it would last, and when ovulation was likely to start - Any 'trying' was marked in as a heart, it's amazing how anybody got pregnant before technology was a thing. 

The app in that second month seemed to tick all the boxes, the hearts were in the right places in the digital calendar at the very least, and so it was the waiting game again.

Both Rachel and myself were determined to be a bit more grounded this time, so it was a case of trying to have as much fun in the month as we could to help pass the time (not that kind of fun!).

Before we knew it, it was the time her period should be starting again; and just like the first month, there was the odd cramp, some tenderness, and slight bleeding - all signs of a pregnancy, but also just like the first month there was then a period.

Oh.

Time to update the app with the period symbol. 

Maybe next month would be our month!

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